I often wonder why some people cope with the often volatile circumstances around them and some people don’t.

Why , far too commonly , the balance between obstacles that cross our paths can tip the scales towards the depths of despair as opposed to  help available to us and that which lies within us, and in just one moment, over years of collateral negativity, a decision is made, where there is no come back, because it is perceived to be the only way out. Out of pain, suffering, mental torture and anguish.

My biggest wish, is that noone ever felt so distressed that this was an option, but that somehow, through some possibility, glimmer of hope, ray of enlightenment, there was a reason for that person not to feel in such overwhelming despair they could terminate there lives in a second, but in stark contrast , that they would find a reason, a purpose that would keep them alive for there appointed lifetime.

People are like icebergs that we can see very visually., in a physical sense. But beyond the depths of the sea, beneath the surface of our very beings lies a unique capsule, encasing the thoughts, feelings , desires ,goals ,hopes and dreams of us all, individually.

The epitomy of emotional distress however dissipates  and erodes those hopes, goals and dreams and leaves something of an empty shell, filled only with inner distress and lack of peace.

However we all hold human resilience if we can look within ourselves. This is where I think the key lies. Within ourself to our own success, own achievements, own contentment, most significantly our own inner strength.

Noone can change the past, but we can change the circumstances around us by changing the way we think about it.

Often tragic or unfortunate circumstances in life can impact us and often without warning, where we have no control, warning and the only thing left is hindsight and what ifs.

But I learn this too is resilience and in our nature, every time we fall down, to keep getting back up; wiser for the lesson learnt, stronger for the pain endured, more resilient to future circumstances, without allowing those circumstances to pull you down.

I do believe we all have an inner strength that will carry us through life’s adversities and stressors if we allow., if we are available to our own resources and those that our available to us. This is where I believe we all have accountability to maintain an insight into our own thoughts, feelings and behaviours and triggers that cause us to feel low, sad or depressed and control we can maintain over these or strategies we can implement when we reach our own boiling point.

The mind is a well known powerful tool, but just like a desktop computer , it can accumulate too much information, lets say, when running too many programmes at the same time. It slows down. It can be susceptible to viruses without the appropriate security software and then suddenly it crashes and it is often very complex and troublesome to repair.

I feel like the human mind is very similar, which is why it is so important to value ourselves, what we think, how we think, what and who we allow into our minds.  Whatever we input into our lives, often has an outlet. So a negative input, will often result in a negative output, unless we protect ourselves accordingly.

This is why boundaries are important in our lives, implementing these in an appropriate fashion and incorporating these steps into our lives to enhance the quality of our lives and what we are able to attribute positively to the life around us.

Investing in our own self, self worth, being is paramount to live effectively and have more fulfilling lives and relationships with those around us. Family life, working relationships, Romantic relationships.

This starts at the core of ourselves as humans and addressing our own needs, emotional, physical, spiritual, psychological.

We are like myriads, like plants that require lots of water, nourishment,  environmental conditons to grow, and not wither.

I’ll focus on the value of physical health in another blog, but I am raising the value of self awareness and the importance of choice and responsibility in our own lives and insight into who we are and grasping life, to achieve who I believe we are destined to become, by being, overcomers, able to withstand that which happens around us, remaining firm as people, standing strong and established and focussed on the goal that we all have ahead of us which is that which again lies within us.

Sometimes in life, unfortunate things happen, we have a choice, to allow it to change us, to become stronger people and like ships, change the course of the sails, which would propel us in a direction,to  a higher level to which we could never be at , without enduring what we had to go through to get there.